Motivation…. Wow so many things come to my mind when I read or hear that word. Hell, even thinking of that word sparks many things. For me, motivation is simply willpower. An array of other words come to mind when I type that out though, such as determination, strength, ambition, fortitude, inspiration, courage. I’m incredibly fucking motivated in my own life, but I also realize that it takes me enjoying the journey and embracing the process.
You gotta have the motivation to get started and after that you have to take action to fully embrace and use that motivation to accomplish. SET OUT TO ACHIEVE AND THEN ACHIEVE! I could write a list of excuses or reasons why things are difficult or tough or why we don’t motivate ourselves to do the things that we really want to do, but I don’t believe in excuses. If you really desire change in your life then you will CONQUER every motherfucking excuse that you have or have ever had and work hard to become the person that you want to be, get that new apartment or house you’ve been thinking about, ask out that girl or guy you like, lose that weight, get the better body, get that better job, upgrade your career, educate yourself, take that risk that you want to take, and the list goes on. Just do it. That’s where the process begins It begins WITHIN while you REPROGRAM YOUR BEHAVIOR and JUST TAKE ACTION DEFYING YOUR OWN EXCUSES YOU ARE ADDICTED TO.
Example.. One of the best examples I can give for MOTIVATION is myself. I decided I wanted to have a ripped shredded bodybuilder physique and so I went after it! Simple right! But not so fast… It required me to COMMIT! Could I do it? What would it feel like? Did I actually have what it takes? Fuck yeah I did and fuck yeah I do and will continue to until the day I die. I WAS FUCKING MOTIVATED because I wanted it! For myself, I knew that in order to actually achieve high level goals, I needed to be able to summon that inner fire, that inner beast, and be UNSTOPPABLE. That’s what I wanted. That’s what I craved. That’s who I always was deep down inside so I figured it was time to unleash it. I wanted it and I was willing to do it. I tried being mediocre, I never liked it so it was time to completely annihilate that part of my mindset. I had excuses! No matter how “legit”, they were still excuses! People have all kinds of bullshit excuses and when it comes down to it, they’re still excuses. I couldn’t afford a trainer, I was unhappy in many areas of my life, but deep down I knew that the only way to change my circumstances was by changing my actions!
How it started: I had dabbled in weightlifting and bodybuilding techniques since I was about 18 years old but never stuck with it after my early 20s except for inconsistent “runs”. I was ready to make this a permanent part of my life. So I remember I went to the gym in May of 2019 for like 3 hours. I did a full body workout and everything I learned when I was 18 from my very first trainer came back to me and everything else I learned from bodybuilding in my early 20s came back to me as well. I waited two weeks and I went back and I did another full body workout. It was the beginning of June 2019 and I decided to do it every week. I committed to it in my mind for myself because it was what I wanted. I have not missed a single week of working out even when I had a minor sprained muscle or the gym was closed for a month — I worked out outside and in my apartment during that time frame.
I have been interested in bodybuilding since a child in the 1980s when I grew up watching professional wrestling! Bodybuilding is a path I am interested in, leaning on, and aiming my sights towards. I remember being a boy and wanting that. I wanted to feel that energy. I loved the big guys who were confident as fuck and displayed their domination and displayed a no fear mindset! I enjoyed bodybuilding as a kid and teenager as well and always dreamed of stepping onto a stage. The best thing ever was hearing my trainer, Jason Bates, at age 18 tell me I had the look and what it takes to dominate bodybuilding. I just didn’t have the confidence and STRONG willpower back then or I didn’t nurture it. As I grew older, I always wanted it, but I forgot about it for many years and settled for mediocrity. I wanted to have a defined muscular body and look good naked, but I also was healing my body and mind from coming off of anti-anxiety medication! I knew that I had to channel that energy! I was in the process of healing body, mind, and soul and in deep inner practices and processes that I was doing on my own, but now I was ready to incorporate the “grounding” part. Little did I know that the transformation would completely change my whole entire life in every aspect and full capacity. There was no “magic formula” that someone gave me. There was no one telling me to do it. I went after it purely because that’s what I wanted and I knew that my life would be bettered by it in the process. Boy, did I learn a lot along the way since then haha. So let me talk about that. My life has been a journey for sure, but often times it was challenging or I perceived it as difficult, but the truth is, I didn’t have it any worse than anyone else. I could rationalize the who what where when why’s and hows, but again, I don’t believe in justification for excuses. Excuses are rotten and they make the person using them rotten too. In the future, I will share some of these stories, but for now I want to focus on my fitness journey.
I believe that most of the time if you are extremely confident, feel good about yourself, you will always be judged by the people who don’t take the time to take care of themselves or focus on themselves. You have to learn to block out anything that doesn’t help you level up, doesn’t feel good, and is negative. The biggest thing to remember is that it all begins within. You can do anything that you set your mind to, honestly, and the only enemy is truly within yourself. I was my greatest enemy and blockage for most of my life — and taking on this fitness journey has helped me become strong, noble, disciplined, prosperous, happy, goal-driven, well-rounded, and overall a better man.
What I did… I began working out once a week, then twice a week, then three times a week, and I did that for months. Then I went up to four times a week, then I added boxing to my weekly routine, then I eventually added five times a week, then six days a week, and I utilized conditioning as well as strength training, weightlifting, and powerlifting moves were a huge part of all of it. I studied videos on YouTube, I asked people in the gym questions, I asked the trainers at the gym I go to (I go to Anytime Fitness in Mitchell, South Dakota and they’re great by the way! So shoutout to them, the owner, the trainers and the wonderful people who go to this gym! They’ve always been so supportive of me and create good vibes in their gym). Right now I am challenging myself and on day 52 of working out in a row. I’m feeling GREAT. Looking great. It wasn’t just physical however. It required me to meditate, take care of my mental health, take accountability, be self-disciplined, sleep well, eat right, take the right supplements, vitamins, learn to drink water, manage my time, invest my money right, get the right food, have the right pre-workout. I’ve done a lot of experimentation to get to where I am now and I’m very happy where I’m at and I will continue to keep going forward and setting new PRs (personal records) for myself in the gym and in every aspect of my life. I use it to fuel the other aspects of my life. Physical training is vastly underrated by anyone who doesn’t do it or has quit doing it.
I think the biggest lie is “waiting to find the motivation”. I hear that often, especially in my role at my current job working in a retail setting. I have lots of conversations with people every day and they tell me what they want to do and how they want to feel, but ultimately I hear excuses and “why” they can’t do what they really want to do or use justifications. I don’t think people really understand the power of their words and how they are reinforcing behavior within themselves and care very little about how they are influencing others in the same regard. The thing is if you are “waiting for motivation”, you might be waiting a long time and by the time that motivation comes, whatever doors were open may not be open any longer so you cannot rely upon waiting for “luck” or “good fortune”. Fuck that shit. Take control of your life and just do it and the motivation will come. Trust me.
I used to struggle with “motivation”, but I think it wasn’t so much motivation as it was confidence. Confidence to say no to what I really didn’t want and the confidence to say yes to what I really did want. It’s funny you know, habits and behavior that is no good for us can often times become
Truthfully we live in a world where very few take responsibility and accountability for their lives. It doesn’t help that we also live in a world that is generally conditioned for people-pleasing and focuses on making people “feel better” from hurt feelings. If you’re controlled by having your “feelings hurt” then maybe you’re attached to expectations
Finding the motivation begins with taking action and also preparing your mind. Having the right knowledge is important in whatever you are motivated to do but so is having an understanding of yourself.
Some of the biggest factors in being motivated are: having a clear mind, being confident, knowing what you want, knowing who you are, accepting where you are at, remaining persistent yet patient, diligence, keeping body mind and soul activated, staying positive, focusing on your higher path, avoiding comforts, having strong boundaries for yourself and with others, listening to yourself and what you really want and then going for it. Motivation is an energy of power and it requires you to let go of placing your fear, shame, guilt, self-doubt or other negativity ahead of your positive feelings and emotions.
If you want something, you have to do the steps it takes in order to get there and learn to love the process. You will begin to build confidence. Keep going forward. Take the steps no matter how small they are towards whatever it is that you desire. Be proud of yourself. Love yourself confidently. Stay focused. You got this shit!
I’m Chris Wick and you can follow me on Twitter @ ChrisWick_